The Collaborative Problem Solving Method

At the heart of The Explosive Child is a straightforward yet powerful approach: Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS). This three-step process helps parents and children work together to resolve conflicts and reduce meltdowns. First, empathize with your child’s perspective. Second, define the problem from both sides. Third, invite your child to brainstorm solutions that work for everyone. Far from a quick fix, CPS addresses the underlying skill deficits that lead to explosive behaviour. Many Canadian parents have found that this method not only decreases outbursts but also strengthens the parent-child relationship.

What Makes This Book Different?

Unlike conventional parenting books that rely on rewards and consequences, The Explosive Child digs deeper. Dr. Ross W. Greene challenges the notion that children are intentionally difficult. Instead, he explains that they lack crucial skills like flexibility, frustration tolerance, and problem-solving. This book provides practical tools for assessing these lagging skills and creating a plan to address them. It is a must-read for parents of children with ADHD, oppositional defiant disorder, autism, or anyone who has felt stuck in a cycle of conflict. The focus is on collaboration, not control.

A Fresh Perspective on Difficult Behaviour

If you have a child who struggles with frequent meltdowns, defiance, or inflexibility, you know how exhausting and isolating it can be. The Explosive Child offers a radically different way of understanding these behaviours—one that shifts the focus from willful misbehaviour to genuine skill deficits. Written by clinical psychologist Dr. Ross W. Greene, this book introduces a compassionate, evidence-based framework that has helped countless families find peace. Rather than asking “how do I get my child to obey?”, this book asks “what is getting in my child’s way?”

What Exactly Is an “Explosive Child”?

Dr. Greene explains that explosive behaviour is not a choice or a manipulation. It is a response to being overwhelmed. Children who are easily frustrated often lack the skills to handle demands, adapt to change, or regulate emotions. Instead of punitive measures, this book teaches parents to identify the unmet expectations that trigger outbursts—and to solve those problems collaboratively. The term “explosive” simply refers to the sudden and intense nature of the meltdowns, not a label for the child.

Praise from Readers and Professionals

This book has resonated deeply with parents, teachers, and mental health professionals across Canada. Many readers describe it as “life-changing” and “the most important book” they have ever read on parenting. Psychiatrists and educators often recommend it for its humane and effective approach. While no book can replace individualized support, the strategies in The Explosive Child have provided relief and hope to families dealing with chronic inflexibility and frustration. The testimonials underscore its practicality and compassion.

How to Get Started

The book is organized into clear, accessible chapters that walk you through the philosophy and step-by-step implementation. Whether you read it cover to cover or dip into specific sections, you’ll find actionable advice you can apply immediately. The Explosive Child is an invaluable resource for any parent who wants to move from power struggles to genuine cooperation. Start today and discover a new way to connect with your child.